5. If he hasn’t declared you his girlfriend, but it’s pretty obvious that the two of you are in a relationship. He calls you his girl, or bae, but you’re constantly wondering about that “official” status, while he probably had that moment a while ago and just didn’t feel the need to have a discussion about it, so instead you have these nerve-wracking thoughts.
6. Guys can hit you up to hang out whenever, but god forbid you want to text him throughout the day or hang out more than a couple of days in a row! If he does it, it’s sweet, but if you do it, it’s needy. And he might then leave you for that resulting clinginess. Another double standard that we tolerate as women.
7. Being “ladylike” in front of him all the time. Not all girl is like that – when she’s by herself or with her best friends, the bra comes off, the old and stained XL tee comes on, as well as unattractive splotches of acne cream. But this level of nakedness around your man could turn him off, so we go through the effort of looking pretty and sweet around them 24/7, which is basically a lie.
8. On another note, pretending that you have zero body hair while you manically shave your legs in the bathroom when he arrives as an impromptu surprise with flowers. Maybe we’ll get to let go of this struggle in marriage, but as of now, crawling into bed with bae with leg-stubble or fuzzy calves isn’t a reality we’re prepared to face.