What makes a person attractive? It’s a difficult question to answer if you’re being honest. The media will have us believe that to be considered conventionally attractive we have to look a certain way, dress a certain way and behave a certain way. It tells us that unless we look like a model or a famous actress we’re doomed. It makes us think we’re ugly, that we have a whole ton of problems, defects and imperfections that need fixing. It wears down our self-esteem and makes us feel worthless. And then it conveniently offers us a whole bunch of pricey solutions.
Exclusive gym memberships, personal trainers, juice cleanses, detoxes and fit teas are presented to us as a solution to the “problem” of our weight and shape. Like it’ll magically make us skinny, toned and taller in a month. Hair dyes and hot tools are meant to help us fix the problem of our hair. Curl it if it’s pin straight, flat iron it if it’s curly, bleach it blonde or become a redhead to seem more attractive. Have you damaged your hair in the process? Here’s a whole range of expensive hair treatments and hair masks that will fix that problem too. Is your skin smooth, blemish free and glowing? It better be, so here’s some creams, gels, scrubs, serums and throw in a couple of facials for good measure. And god forbid you have any discoloration or unusual pigmentation. Hide that stuff with concealer, foundation, powder, contour, bronzer, highlight and a whole ton of eyeshadow and fake lashes. Oh, and freckles are in now, but since they’re buried under that full face of makeup just draw them on with eyeliner.
Once you’re done with your face it’s time to fix that massive problem of unwanted body hair. There’s a plethora of ways to do that too: shaving, waxing, threading, sugaring, laser, etc. And finally you need to go and buy the trendiest, most fashionable outfits and accessories and don’t forget to get your nails done too. And only after completing these many steps and spending a fortune you might have a chance to be considered “attractive”. Or at least that’s what the media wants us to think. But is that really necessary? Isn’t beauty in the eye of the beholder? Aren’t we all beautiful in our own unique way? The truth is feeling beautiful and attractive is all about confidence, no matter what you actually look like. You need proof? Here we go.
Let’s divide people into three categories. First will be the conventionally pretty ones. With flawless skin, naturally on the skinny side and rather tall and slender looking. When you think about it that way – all of the people who are in this category should be super confident models and celebrities, right? But that’s not the case. Why? Because a lot of people struggle with confidence. Models often speak out about how they were considered the ugly ducklings when they were growing up, being bullied for their long gangly limbs and skinny figure. It was only after they were noticed by modeling agencies that they started believing they’re pretty, reached a certain level of success and gained their confidence. So the fact that they looked like a model didn’t occur to them until someone else told them so.
Our second category will be dedicated to average looking people. You know, those of us who are on the shorter side, without the classic hourglass figure, with slightly messy hair and a couple of zits on our face from time to time. The people you see every day on the street, at work, in shopping malls. People you’re friends with, family members those who aren’t going to win a beauty pageant any time soon, but at the same time seem to be doing pretty well in life. Are they beautiful? Of course they are. They might not have that super shiny shampoo commercial hair and they don’t own any Chanel pieces, but they don’t care. They have their own style, they have a sense of humor, a quirky personality and that’s what makes them beautiful.
What if you’re in the third category? What if you’re really far away from being conveniently pretty? What if your skin is too light or too dark, or perhaps you have a disability? Does that mean you’re not attractive? No, it just means you’re different and you stand out. It’s all about confidence and what you put into the universe. If you hide away and put yourself down – that’s how others will treat you too. But if you own it and make it your strength the world will see it as your strength too. There’s plenty of people who challenge the “norm” and challenge these ridiculous standards of beauty and we admire them for it. Beauty is not a set of features, it’s not about the color of your eyes or the structure and length of your hair, it’s not about your proportions or trendy outfits, it’s all about your confidence and how you view and present yourself to the world. So believe in yourself, be confident, tell yourself you’re beautiful and the world will believe you.