Ladies, we guys can be super complicated sometimes. And not just because we stop maturing mentally once we hit 14 years old. We are especially a mystery when you’re trying to figure out how we really feel about you. Are we just showering you with attention so that we can get a little sumpthin’-sumpthin’? Or are we exhibiting the signs of a guy who is truly devoted to you and wants a serious relationship? If you are a bit baffled over whether a guy is in love with you, this article should make things a bit more clear.
1. He Always Notices the New, Little Details About You
Have you gotten a new haircut recently? Wearing new earrings? Have you modified your hair color from a shade of green to a slightly different shade of green? The average guy is not going to notice or really even care. But a guy who is in love with you is definitely going to be aware of these subtle changes.
2. He Pampers You Without Expecting Much in Return
When a guy that you’ve just met buys you dinner or flowers, it doesn’t necessarily mean much. He might just be doing it as a courtesy. Or he might just see it as a way to get into your pants. But if a guy is constantly paying attention to detail, taking you out a lot, and fulfilling your emotional needs without demanding anything but your company, it is a very good sign that he’s in love.
3. He Doesn’t Suffocate You
When a guy calls you several times a day, “likes” every one of your Facebook posts, or always demands your time, it doesn’t mean he loves you. That behavior is more akin to an unhealthy obsession. Instead, a guy who is in love with you is tactful. They always make themselves available and they might call you in the morning to wish you a good day and call at night to wish you a restful sleep, but they also want you to have an active life apart from them.
4. He Takes an Active Interest in Your Interests
Do you enjoy dancing, reading, or traveling? If a guy asks you questions about your hobbies and takes the initiative, incorporate them into your plans together, this is definitely a guy who is interested in more than just a Platonic friendship.
5. He Makes You Feel Safe
If you are with a guy and he acts completely normal and comfortable around you, it is a sure sign that he is probably not a psycho or a serial killer…or is it? All kidding aside, when the guy is giving off signals that make you feel safe and comfortable around him, that is a sure sign that he is in love.
6. He Texts You Even If He’s Hanging Out With Others
If he’s at a party, night club or social gathering but is still writing messages to you, it means he loves you. Okay, it is actually a sign that the party, night club or social gathering is super boring and lame. But still, the fact that he would want to interact with you instead of the people he’s physically with is a strong indicate of his feelings for you.
7. He Gives You Encouragement
When you’re feeling insecure and a guy does or says something to make you feel more confident in yourself, it definitely bodes well. If he is telling you to pursue your passions or choose an exciting but uncertain path, it means he wants you to be happy. It also means he wants to be a big part of your life.
8. He Invites You Out for a Day Trip
Imagine a guy calls you up and asks if you want to spend a day going for a hike, exploring a quaint little town, or a day relaxing by a lake. Any guy who is willing to plan a simple but fun activity for the two of you surely has strong feelings for you.
9. He Cooks For You
Any guy can take a girl out for dinner. But if he invites you over and creates a culinary masterpiece, it shows that he really cares about you. After all, he isn’t going to take all that time and effort for the 10 minutes that it takes to eat the meal unless he is really dedicated to you.
10. He Keeps His Jealousies to a Minimum
Jealousies are often an inherent element of any relationship. But a guy who truly loves you also trusts you. That means he isn’t constantly calling you up to find out where you are, he doesn’t ask for more details when you mention a male friend, and he never tries to make you feel guilty when you want to hang out with your friends. That is a true sign of love.
11. He Spends Less Time With Other Females
When you first met him you were aware that he had a lot of female friends, but now he’s begun to dial back on getting together with them and spending most of his time with you instead. The fact that you are fulfilling his social needs and sees you as irreplaceable is a strong indication that he is falling head over heels for you.
12. He Surprises You with Coffee on a Sunday Morning
If your guy comes to your door on a Sunday morning with a cup of coffee for you in hand, it is a signal of real devotion. After all, he has just parted ways with the $6.00 it costs for a venti orange mocha Frappuccino AND he sacrificed a morning of extra sleep so that you can enjoy the caffeinated benefits of a pretentious, fair-trade cup of premium roasted coffee with a bunch of other things that don’t belong in a cup of coffee. If that isn’t love, then love doesn’t exist!