Let’s face it, ladies. It wouldn’t be particularly hard for you to find a date tonight. If you walked around carrying a sign with your phone number and the words “date me” you would attract all sorts of guys. The problem is that they would all pretty much be weirdos. The real issue is finding the right guy. But we have some good news. There are several strategies that you can use to get a normal guy to fall in love. Here are 12 that might just do the trick!
1. Eye Contact
Eye contact is a sneaky trick that can make guys fall in love, but it really works. Why? Because it simulates the behavior of couples who actually are in love. A Harvard study found that people who are in love spend 75% of the time looking at each other. This was significantly higher compared to platonic friends. So stare away, ladies. Just make sure to blink from time to time.
2. Don’t Reveal Too Much About Yourself
Showing openness and sincerity is all good, but there are certain limits to how much you should say, especially if you are just getting to know each other. If you come right out and talk about annoying ex-boyfriends or complain about your gossipy roommate, you will come off as naive. You can gradually reveal more and more about yourself, but in order to attract him (and get him to fall in love!!!) you should remain something of an intriguing secret.
3. Be Willing to Give
We at HerBeauty are all about chivalry, ladies. (But don’t get us wrong. We think strong, independent woman are awesome too!) A guy should feel totally cool about paying when you’re on a date. At the same time, it is important that you demonstrate that you are happy to give back, whether it is by reciprocating on the next date or even by showing that you are available to give him emotional support when he needs it. Guys dig a lady who knows that love is a two-way street.
4. Appearance Matters
If you want a guy to fall in love, you should totally dress hot all the time. We’re talking red dresses and stilettos 24/7. Just kidding. We at HerBeauty aren’t afraid to show a bit of sarcasm now and again. But in all seriousness, if you want the right guy to fall in love, it is important that you make a reasonable attempt to look attractive. T-shirts, jeans and sneakers are perfectly fine too. Spend a bit of time on your hair and a bit of makeup will make a difference.
5. Don’t Try Too Hard
You probably aren’t into desperate guys, right? Then you likely realize that it works the other way around as well. It isn’t important to demonstrate an enthusiastic interest in everything he likes. Mountain climbing not your bag? Then there’s no need to pretend it’s your passion. Just be yourself. After all, you want a guy to fall in love with you because of who you actually are.
6. Rely on Mutual Friends
This one isn’t always possible, of course. But if you happen to have mutual friends, they can go a long way towards vouching for you. As an alternative, you could cultivate friendships between the guy and your friends (and vice versa). This could build up trust and ultimately lead him to fall in love. Wouldn’t that be nice?
7. Ask Him For a Favor
Like a guy and want him to like you back? Ask him to do a task for you, such as moving your furniture around or even fetching you a burger at McDonalds. This strategy works when seeking to influence others in any situation, but is especially effective if you want him to fall in love. It’s an old reverse psychology trick that Benjamin Franklin used whenever he wanted to gain approval.
8. Bake Him Something
It’s been said that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. We male writers at HerBeauty couldn’t agree more. But we aren’t suggesting that you merely buy him a bag of Doritos, although that’s a pretty nice idea. No, if you take the time to surprise him with some home-baked cookies or other tasty delights, you can conquer love and his hunger at the same time.
9. Play Hard To Get
We’re not going to lie. Getting a guy by throwing yourself at him works 99% of the time. But remember, ladies, we’re talking about the search for the right guy who wants a meaningful relationship. A useful strategy is to make him work for your affection. Flirt a bit, but don’t let him cross any boundaries. Call or text him…and then suddenly stop and force him to contact you. By doing so, he will be more inclined to fall in love since he understands that a real relationship requires effort.
10. Set the Walking Pace
Men generally walk faster than women. Is it because we don’t generally wear high heels? Could be. In any event, for a while you will need to keep up with him. But at some point, if you notice him slowing down in order to adjust to your walking pace, it’s a sure sign that he’s falling for you.
11. Distinguish Yourself From Other Women
If you want a guy to fall in love, you have to separate yourself from the pack. This means highlighting the elements of your personality that make you unique and irresistible. Impress him by paying attention to small details. Market yourself. Figure out what mutual interests you have in order to enhance your compatibility. If you do these things the right way, he will definitely fall in love.
12. Laugh…but Not Too Much
Of all the way that people bond, very few come close to the feeling of shared laughter. When you laugh at a guy’s stories or jokes, you are accomplishing two things at once: you are making him feel more confident and you are creating an emotional connection. This will go a long way towards making the guy fall in love. However, exercise some restraint. Don’t laugh at literally everything he says. It will come off as insincere or indicate to him that you are anxious.