Have you been out on a date with a guy, or perhaps you just hung out for the first time and now you’d like to send him a text but you don’t know what to say? Or perhaps you matched with a guy on Tinder and you don’t know what to say to get the conversation going? Yeah, we’ve all been there. It’s an awkward place to be. A lot of girls are told that you should wait for the guy to call or text first, but we think that rule is stupid and outdated. There’s no reason you shouldn’t text him first. And we even have a couple of helpful suggestions on what to text him so you don’t end up sending him an awkward “hey” or even worse – an emoji.
1. Compliment Him
One of the most obvious but underrated things you can say to a man is a compliment. If it’s someone you’ve been on a date with, you can always start a text conversation by letting them know you’ve had a nice time and then follow it up with a compliment about their style, their manners or perhaps you really liked the smell of their cologne. It’ll do wonders to their ego and let them know you’re interested in seeing them again.
2. Common Interest
If it’s someone you don’t know very well, you can always look through their social media, see if you share any common interests and comment on that. So, for example, if they have a dog and so do you, you can jokingly suggest a play date for your puppies. If they’re into music ask them what’s the last concert they’ve been to.
3. Ask For Advice
A good way to get someone’s attention over task is to ask someone for advice. We’re not talking about serious advice like “should I have this surgery or not”, of course. But something small yet totally feasible like “What’s the best/your favorite takeout place?” will guarantee you a reply 99% of the time.
4. Share A Meme
If you have a hilarious meme you want to share with them – go ahead. And you can always ask them to share their favorite meme too. There’s no guarantee it’ll work, but there’s a chance it’ll make them laugh and that’s a step in the right direction. But do make sure it’s not offensive.
5. Be Outlandish
If you’re both around the same age, you’re bound to have grown up on the same movies and TV shows. Start a text with a reference. But don’t go with Joey’s “How you doing?” from Friends. Be more obscure. Try a line from Gilmore Girls, or The Office, or hey, ask them which house they belong to in Hogwarts. It’ll be just outlandish enough to get them interested.
6. What’s Your Favorite…?
Starting a conversation with a question is always a good idea. But if you have to go down the “what’s your favorite/funniest…” route be unexpected. Don’t ask what’s their favorite color or movie. Instead ask them what’s their favorite line from a movie, or who’s their favorite stand up comedian.
7. Best Trip
If you see that the guy travels a lot – ask him about the best trip he’s ever taken and what made that one the best. This is great because it gets him to talk about himself and it’s easy to branch out into other topics from this.
8. Would You Rather?
Who doesn’t like a good round of “would you rather?”, especially if it’s creative questions. Instead of just googling the most common ones try to come up with interesting “would you rather questions” based on their interests.