What is it that men really want? While women have always been pegged as emotionally complex with their feelings and needs, men seem much simpler and less enigmatic. Agree? Certainly not! Just because guys are shy or afraid to talk about their desires and emotions doesn’t mean they don’t have them. Truth is they rarely discuss these things not only with women, but with their buddies, too. Showing vulnerability and being genuine about your feelings is something that’s not easy for men, but they’re slowly learning how to do it. And while they’re at it, we still need to figure out what is it that they want. Here are 10 things men secretly want from women, but rarely ask for.
Men want romance
Yes, we’re not the only ones who melt in front of a beautiful romantic gesture, guys love them, too! But because our culture and society has decided what’s ‘manly’ and what’s ‘girlish’, guys usually end up on the giving side. If you want to deepen the bond with your boyfriend think about the most romantic thing and just do it! Whether it’s a date on the rooftop or star-gazing, he’ll definitely appreciate the effort.
Men want to feel the chase
While modern women are all about first steps, men still want to get that feeling of chasing you. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do anything to develop your relationship, but let him take the lead for a while – who knows, maybe you’ll enjoy it! Don’t rush into things and let him make a few steps. Guys really don’t like the feeling of being forced into something, especially with relationships.
Men want you to accept their help
Guys are all about action, and what better way to show their love than by helping you with something? Yes, we girls are independent and quite capable of doing things ourselves, and yes, men actually like and respect that. Nevertheless, when he’s offering to carry your bags he’s simply saying that he wants to do something pleasant for you, make your life a bit easier. Even if those bags aren’t that heavy, let him! You’ll both feel happy.
Men want appreciation
It is such a simple thing, but we often forget that relationship is a game for two and we, ladies, are not the ones doing all the heavy-lifting (although, sometimes, it might seem that way). Be appreciative of your man! When he does something special for you – give him credit and thank him. It’s the small details that matter and it’s good if you notice them.
Men want you to be spontaneous
Okay, we admit, not all people are adventurous and it would be silly to expect spontaneity from a super calm and reserved person. Nevertheless, it’s always good to try something new to liven up your relationship and keep the spark alive. You can take some pressure off him and suggest a cool new place for a date or plan a journey to an awesome destination. Let yourself be unpredictable! You both will love it.
Men want you to tell the truth
Being frank is not women’s strong suite. We, ladies, tend to think a lot and we kind of expect our boyfriends to read our minds at least a little bit. Isn’t it obvious that you are upset by that phone call from yesterday? Well, no, for him it’s not. Most of time your partner is clueless about what’s bothering you unless you say it out loud. Speaking about what’s on your mind is something that will make your relationship more stable, even if the subject is not so pleasant.
Men want to be accepted
We all have the need to feel accepted, especially in a relationship. It may sound so simple, but in reality guys have just as many insecurities as we do, so it’s important to let them know that they’re accepted no matter what. He probably has his own quirky habits and can say something silly in front of your friends – that’s exactly when you need to show your acceptance and not judge him for who he is.
Men want to work out together
Guys just love getting all sweaty, and getting all sweaty with a loved one is even better. Not only do they get inspired, but they also have the pleasure of watching us, girls, working on our bodies, becoming stronger and more beautiful. That’s a sight they find really pleasurable!
Men want emotional maturity
Now this is something you can’t simply wish upon yourself because emotional maturity evolves with time. But this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try your best! Whether it’s an issue that’s making you go haywire on him or some misunderstanding that turns you into a broody monster, you should try to figure out your emotions before spilling them all out on your partner. Be honest, authentic, non-dramatic, and always try to understand his point of view, whether you like it or not. It’s the only way to build strong relationship!
Men want intimacy
When it comes to relationship men really don’t like unnecessary attention. You may, of course, discuss some details with your best friends and family, but posting each and every move you make together on Facebook or Instagram is not the best way to make your man happy. Unless, of course, he’s extra sociable and likes doing it himself!