We all like to be in control of things at least to some extent. Yet when it comes to relationship it’s much harder to build them on control, distrust, and watching your partner’s every move. If you’re feeling that your boyfriend is too intrusive and wants to know literally everything about where you go, whom you talk to, and how you spend your free time that doesn’t include him – well, there’s a high chance you’re dating a control freak and things will only get worse. Here are the main 11 signs to look out for.
He thinks it’s okay to check your phone
Now here’s a red flag if we’ve ever seen one. If a guy thinks it’s totally okay (or that he has the right to) go through your things, phone call history, and messages, then he’s 100% control freak with huge trust issues. If you say it’s not okay and he doesn’t stop doing this – say bye-bye.
He tells you what to wear
If it starts feeling like you’re losing your style with his never-ending complains and advice he gives on what to wear and not to wear when you go out, then you should definitely tell him it’s too much.
He’s the one who makes all the plans
Not having to decide where to go and what to do might have been fun at first, but now it has come to a point when he decides all your social interactions for you. Maybe you wanted to go out with your friends this weekend, but he’s already planned an event of his own and you’re part of it. Non-negotiable.
He’s telling you what to eat
Your diet is a personal, intimate thing. If you’re feeling like munching on some junk food or having an extra large cup of coffee – it’s your choice and he’s not the one to judge it! We are what we eat and if he’s trying to tell you what to eat it this means he’s trying to control your entire life.
He’s jealous of other men
It doesn’t really matter what men – he’ll be equally jealous towards your male BFF you’ve known for years and a colleague you’re meeting for lunch. He’s insecure about himself and doesn’t want you to even talk to other men.
He doesn’t want you to meet with friends
He may be one of those guys who wants all your time to himself. This may seem romantic and thrilling at first, but then you end up spending less and less time with your friends and family, ruining some of the most important bonds in your life. Don’t let your boyfriend do that and spend as much time with your friends as you like!
He doesn’t care about your dreams
Whether it’s your career or an ambitious world travel plan, you never feel like your boyfriend supports your goals in life. He focuses mostly on his ambitions and wants you to do the same. He’s scared that you’ll become too independent and confident when you reach your goals, so he’s doing nothing to support you. That way it’s easier to control you!
He’s tracking you via GPS
Okay, this is a weird one, but it actually happens in real life. It is possible to use GPS to follow your every step through certain smartphone apps. If you notice anything like this happening, then this is a major control freak alert.
He hates it when you do something without consulting him
A proper control freak won’t tolerate you making your own decisions, whether they concern him or not. He always knows what’s best for you and will tell you about it on every occasion. If he’s criticizing your every step, decision, or purchase, it’s a sure sign you’re dating a control freak.
He thinks he can do everything
Whether it’s a leaky pipe he knows nothing about, learning a new language, or repairing a car, he thinks that he can do anything and there’s no need to call a professional. He’s too proud to admit that there’s something he doesn’t know or can’t do on his own. Needless to say, these situations always end up not in his favor.
He has a regimen he’ll never break
A spontaneous vacation, an unplanned visit of your friends, an unexpected job opportunity that requires living at another city? Nope, he won’t tolerate any of those things. A control freak like him has his own regimen that works for him and he’ll never change it – not for you, not for anyone else.