Relationships are only easy and effortless at the start, in that honeymoon phase where you love everything about your partner, view world through rose tinted glasses and can’t get enough of each other. Once that phase passes you start seeing the little things that might annoy you about them, some strange habits you don’t approve of and character traits that are not that great. And the difference between an ok relationship and a good one is the amount of effort you put in to address those issues and see what both of you can do to keep the relationship from spiraling out of control. And while talking it out is always a good idea, sometimes it might be hard to breach the difficult topics, or even articulate the feelings you have and the issues you’re facing. This is where relationship books come in. Here are 6 relationship books that every couple should read together if they want to stay together and make their relationship stronger and better.
1. The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary D. Chapman
This is a classic amongst relationship books for a reason. This book is a goldmine for those who feel like they’re struggling to communicate with their partner or feel like their expectations don’t exactly match the reality of their relationship. This book teaches you about communication and how there are multiple love languages and perhaps you and your partner just speak different ones, but once you learn the other languages everything becomes so much clearer and easier.
2. Mindful Relationship Habits: 25 Practices for Couples to Enhance Intimacy, Nurture Closeness, and Grow a Deeper Connection by SJ Scott and Barrie Davenport
Lot of people struggle to navigate through life when they have to deal with their family, friends, work and relationships. It can feel too complicated and like it’s too much responsibility to handle, and the first thing to go is usually the relationship. However, if you read this book you’ll get some incredible insights into how to manage all of these things, keep your priorities in order and make sure your relationship doesn’t suffer.
3. I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum
If you’ve been through some tough times in your relationship but you overcame it, however the trust has been broken – this book might be the perfect solution for you . It’s both realistic, hopeful and helpful and it gives you some practical advice on how to restore the trust in your partner and your relationship.
4. Deal Breakers: When to Work On a Relationship and When to Walk Away by Dr. Bethany Marshall
It’s all in the name, folks. This is a great book to read if you’ve been wondering about your relationship and whether it’s worth fighting for or should you perhaps just give up. It focuses on the idea that relationships are a lot like business deals, in the sense that you have to come up with an agreement and follow the guidelines you set up. If the person doesn’t fit you and isn’t willing to change now what will make them change in the future. This book might be the final push you need to let go of an unhealthy relationship and try your luck with someone else who fits your needs better.
5. The Science of Happily Ever After: What Really Matters in the Quest for Enduring Love by Ty Tashiro
The Science of Happily Ever After is a witty blend of funny real life anecdotes and scientific studies about how people choose their mates. It’s an easy read that will provide you with a lot of new and interesting information and help you set up a good approach to choosing a partner, teach you what really matters in the quest for love and what things seem important at first but in reality will have no impact on your relationship.
6. The Highly Sensitive Person in Love: Understanding and Managing Relationships When the World Overwhelms You by Elaine Aron
If you find yourself being upset a lot of the time, if even silly little jokes make you upset and you take everything said to you close to heart, if you’ve been told you’re being too sensitive – you might need to read this book.