6 Unique Habits Of Women Who Attract Deep, Lasting Love

toward the emotionally unavailable men, the chronically confusing, the walking red flags? If so, you’re not alone.

After enough situations labeled as “it’s complicated” and nights spent crying and wondering what’s wrong with you, it’s easy to start questioning your worth. But here’s the thing—there are women out there who manage to find love that’s real, deep, and respectful. Love that makes you feel safe. And those women are not magical unicorns with secret powers, they’re just as real as you and me. They’ve just developed a few habits that make all the difference.

Here are the six habits of women who always attract the kind of love that builds you up—not breaks you down.

1. They Love Themselves Like They’d Love Their Best Friend

We’re all great at hyping up our friends: “You’re a queen,” “He’s not good enough for you,” “You deserve so much better.” But when it comes to ourselves, that inside voice somehow always and up sounding like Regina George doesn’t it?

See that’s a major difference. Women who attract soul-deep love don’t just talk about self-love—they practice it. They speak to themselves kindly, forgive their mess-ups, and make choices that reflect their worth. Not because they’re perfect. But because they’ve decided they’re worth treating well—by themselves, and by others.

Pro tip: When in doubt, ask yourself “Would I say this to my best friend?” If the answer’s no, don’t say it to yourself.

2. They Know That Romance Isn’t The Only Love That Counts

Sometimes we focus so much on finding romantic love that we forget to notice all the other love that surrounds us. When relationships fall apart or dating feels like a never-ending cycle of disappointment, it’s easy to slip into that dark place that make you think you’re failing at love  altogether. But here’s a question worth asking: What relationships in your life are actually working right now?

Maybe it’s the friend who always checks in. The sibling who shows up when it really matters. The coworker who brings you tea when you’re having a rough day. That’s love, too.

Women who attract deep, lasting love recognize this. They don’t dismiss the love they already have, they nurture it. They let it remind them of their worth, their ability to connect, and what they truly value in a relationship.

Because love isn’t only found in candlelit dinners and forehead kisses. Sometimes, it’s in shared memes, late-night phone calls, and the quiet comfort of someone who knows your coffee order by heart.

3. They Heal Before They Date (Again)

It’s tempting to jump from one relationship to another—partly to numb the pain, partly to prove you’re still desirable. But women who attract genuine love aren’t rushing to fill a void. They pause, they take a break to process, they try to heal.

And that can look different for everyone. Some choose therapy, others go for journaling. Crying over sad movies and re-learning how to sleep alone is also a way of healing. It’s not glamorous—but it’s transformative.

It’s important to take a critical look at your own patterns, ask yourself the hard questions. Setting new standards should not come from a place of bitterness, but from growth. The goal is not to just move on, but to move forward.