10 Myths About Marriage to Ignore

Spring is soon approaching, which means wedding season is too. People have a lot of strong opinions when it comes to getting married, but there are many myths about that union that we’d like to put to rest. Some of those myths come from pop culture, while others come from our parents. Ignore all that conflicting advice and watch out for these marriage myths.

1. No fighting

If you think that marital bliss means never getting into arguments, you’re sorely mistaken. Arguing doesn’t make for a bad marriage – disagreements happen to the best of us, and even once in a while your angelic partner can get o your nerves. Just make sure that you communicate with each other instead of letting resentment or grudges go – that’s the key.

2. Your soulmate is exactly like you

You should probably have something in common with your romantic partner, but you don’t need to find someone that’s practically a double of you. In fact, opposites often attract! Having similar basic morals is what’s needed, and that’s pretty much it. It’s all about compromise and seeing things from the other person’s perspective.

3. Everyone has “the one” out there

There’s no chance that in this world of billions of people, there’s only one person for you out there. The idea of a “soulmate” is sweet but outdated and adds lots of pressure to a relationship. The notion gives people an excuse to not work hard on their marriage, but all marriages require work. Even the perfect match isn’t handed love on a platter.

4. Don’t go to bed mad

While this isn’t a bad general rule to have (going to sleep angry will definitely lead to some tossing and turning), going to bed angry isn’t a dealbreaker. Even if it’s hard to sleep if you know someone is upset with you, a break can be necessary in oder to process thoughts and have some distance from the situation. Sleep can provide that. Don’t stay up all night fighting – it won’t make anything better. See it with fresh eyes the next day.