11 Things Anti-Relationship Men Want Women to Understand

Contrary to popular belief, not everyone wants to be in a relationship. Maybe it’s the timing in their life or their general philosophy on relationships. Everyone is entitled to their opinion when it comes to being part of a couple, but you can’t force someone into your idea of happily ever after. Here are some different perspectives on some of the reasons why people think this way, including some key factors that those who don’t want to be in a relationship should understand.

1. Commitment doesn’t equal control

Many commitment-phobes worry about someone else being the boss of their entire life. In a healthy relationship, commitment should mean that each individual party still has their freedom. Even in a relationship, men and women should have their own autonomy. The only difference is that someone is now included in your life that you need to consider.

2. Knowing the person very well is key

Knowing who someone is inside and out is essential to getting to the level of trust that’s required in a relationship. Many people are scared to commit because something happened where they feel as though the person they knew was entirely someone else. This is why honesty is so important.

3. Commitment won’t turn her into a different person

Often, commitment for women just means that added security that their partner cares about them and won’t do anything to hurt them intentionally. However, some men seem to think that commitment automatically turns a woman into a clingy, possessive beast which isn’t necessarily true. However, knowing someone well is key to avoiding surprises like this.

4. A relationship isn’t automatically a marriage

Dating is fun, and even if you spend a long-term relationship with someone, you might just end up being friends. Guys with the anti-relationship mentality sometimes think that committing automatically means signing a contract for marriage and kids. But not every couple is destined for marriage and that’s ok.