10 Ways to Deal with a Jealous Boyfriend

Dealing with a possessive or jealous boyfriend is never easy. Being in love with someone who has a tendency to go green with envy is a common problem. It can impact otherwise great relationships and cause roadblocks that are impossible to ignore. Worst of all, it can seem to pop out of nowhere, taking you from perfectly happy to doing damage control. Here, we’re going to break down the different ways to deal with a jealous partner in a relationship.

1. Don’t deny it

Pushing off an issue and avoiding that it’s the reality is easier than actually confronting a problem. Relationships are tough, and so is communicating in them, but it’s the only way to experience growth. First things first, you’ll need to accept your partner’s insecurity and come up with proactive ways to deal with it rather than unproductive arguments. At the same time, he can’t deny this fact about himself. Finding a way for both of you to accept it is essential if you ever want to move on from it.

2. Listen

It’s easy to talk to each other, but listening to and understanding someone else’s perspective is the most important part of this conversation. Doing so will help you understand the root of his jealousy without him feeling as though you’re being judgemental about it. If you understand why he turns green with envy, you may be able to handle it better in the future.

3. Leave

A completely valid option is to not stay in the relationship if you don’t feel valued. Unless you’ve given your partner a reason to doubt your relationship, there’s nothing you can do if they’re having irrational thoughts. Ultimately, that’s their own baggage, and you deserve to be with someone that can fully trust you if you’ve deemed yourself as trustworthy. You can also set an ultimatum.

4. Remain honest and open

If there’s something you’re hiding from him or lying about, even the tiniest white lies can help confirm his insecurity and allow him to spiral even more. Hiding things (in any relationship) will cause tension, so skip the surprises and blow up fights by being 100% open and honest in your relationships. That includes how you feel, even if the truth is hard to handle. This also means involving him in more aspects of your life, which can help reduce paranoia.