8 Things You Should NEVER Say in a Relationship, Unless You Want to Break Up

Words are a powerful instrument that can either lift you up or bring you down in a matter of seconds. Naturally, we are open to our partners and everything they have to say. Likewise, our loved ones are most sensitive to our remarks, comments, criticism, and other modes of communication that are less pleasant. Being in a relationship, you really need to filter what you say and how you say it as the damage caused by a few simple phrases can often be irreversible, causing problems for years to come. Here are 8 things you should never say in a relationship, unless you want to break up.

‘You don’t know anything’

This phrase might have been harmless for Jon Snow, but for us non-fictional beings those words sting like a bee. Even if you’re arguing, this phrase doesn’t do anything good – it just diminishes your partner’s intelligence and cripples his self-worth. If you feel that your partner doesn’t quite understand the issue, it’s best to say something like ‘From where I stand…’ – make it about you and your feelings, not your partner’s wrongdoings!

‘Everyone knows that’s not how you do it’

The so-called ‘global criticism’ is the worst thing ever as it hits your partner fully as a whole person and on different levels. A phrase like ‘No, that’s no how you do it. Everyone knows it should be done like this…’ is a blow below the waist, really. Try not to compare your loved one to other people or the whole world in general that supposedly knows best – it doesn’t. And your significant other may end up hurt for a long time.

‘Don’t take it personally, but…’

Well that’s the exact way to make sure your loved one will take things personally. If you want to be truthful, make sure you phrase whatever you want to say as gently as possible. There’s a thin line between being intimately sincere with your loved one and openly criticising whatever you don’t like about him or her. Think whether what you’re about to say will do both of you any good or is it something that you should simply accept as part of your partner’s personality.