Any guy who loves his mom and has a close relationship with her is a keeper. But some guys have bonds a bit too strong with their moms. Some of them even have a bit of a creepy vibe. For momma’s boys, their mother will always be their first priority, and you’ll always be on the back-burner. Unless you’re ready to constantly be compared to his mom, or have her drop by unannounced on a regular basis, these are why you should avoid a momma’s boy at all costs.
1. They don’t set emotional boundaries with their moms
Most guys create boundaries between their romantic relationships and time with their mom. But many men are co-dependent on their mothers, and have zero emotional boundaries set in place. This means that your boundaries will constantly be crossed, and you might not always feel respected.
2. He’ll compare you to her
Being compared to an ex-girlfriend doesn’t feel good, but you know what feels even worse? Being compared to his mom, because you’ll always lose. A momma’s boy will compare everything from what you cook, to what you don’t do right. You’ll never live up to the expectations, and something will always be wrong. Head out and find someone who appreciates you!
3. What mom says goes
Ultimately, as his partner, you should be the person whose decision matters most. But even if mom has nothing to do with the matter, he’ll always let her have the final word. A fight between couples should remain that — between you two. Letting someone else have control over the relationship is a recipe for disaster.
4. She’ll third wheel your vacations
Ah, there’s nothing more relaxing than getting some time off work to explore a new place with bae. But throw any romantic notions out the window, because rather than jetting off on a spontaneous trip somewhere exotic, you’ll be planning reservations for three rather than two. She might tell you she’ll leave you alone on the trip, but she’ll be there all the time, or at least calling you non-stop for updates.
5. The wedding will be a mess
Usually, people fear a bridezilla, but the mother-in-law to be can be an even bigger monster. When it comes to your big day, your fiancee’s mother will probably be a control freak, even if she’s not paying. Oh, and she’ll want to be a part of every single detail, like gown-shopping and cake-testing. Even worse, your hubby will probably focus more on your mom during the ceremony. You’re basically marrying her too.
6. Taking sides
You always want your boyfriend or husband to be in your corner when it comes to any argument, but a momma’s boy will always be in mommy dearest’s pocket, no matter what. It’s probably why his other relationships have failed. If she confronts you and you stand up to her, your partner will get involved, but it won’t end well for you.
7. A fight for affection
Public displays of affection between couples are normal. Between a mother and son? Not so much. Some of these moms might freak out if they see their son kissing you or showing affection when they’re around. Others might try to compete by being even more physically affectionate with their son. Either way, it’s gross and a big red flag.
8. She’ll turn up at your apartment.
Even worse than crashing a vacation is when bae’s mom shows up at your house unannounced. Regardless, you can expect her to show up daily, and even if she doesn’t come once a day, she’ll probably overstay her welcome every time. Even if you beg with your man not to make his mom a key, she’ll be horrified if he doesn’t and it’ll negatively impact the relationship.
9. You can’t change him
Even if you hope one day he’ll put you above his mother, chances are, he won’t change. As women, we often try to rescue dudes, but people aren’t fixer-uppers. They can only change if they want to. Co-dependant relationships take years to become healthy, and sometimes they never do. Just accept her role in his life and put him in the friend zone where he belongs.
10. He can’t make his own decisions
We get being indecisive. But if someone needs to run every decision past their mom, that’s a sign that they have some growing up to do. Whether it’s what to eat for dinner or future life plans, you can bet that he’s going to run it by her rather than making up his own mind.