So you’ve met someone. They have that sparkle in their eye and slight smile when they talk to you. It feels electric, but you’re not sure if it’s in your head, or if the chemistry is really here. What exactly is chemistry? It’s the intense connection that draws you to someone. Sometimes, this natural flow is easy to recognize. But other times, the signs are a bit more subtle, which can be tough for those of us who aren’t skilled at recognizing the obvious. Here’s how to tell if that chemistry is really there.
- Eye contact doesn’t feel awkward
In some cases, prolonged eye contact feels super awkward and uncomfortable. But if you have chemistry with someone, it feels like you’re getting lost in their eyes. Even the most intense eye contact feels natural, and comfortable. If you feel this way, continue to maintain eye contact, as it indicates interest and can make two people form a closer bond.
2. Body language
Are their feet pointing towards you? Arms uncrossed and leaning in towards you? There’s a good chance that chemistry is going on. Additionally, if they make you blush or vice versa, this is a tell-tale sign. Non-verbal cues are hard to control, and can give away the truth even when we’re trying to hide them. When words fail, read the body language.
3. Banter
Frequent joking around or teasing are a sign of flirtation, as it’s an attempt to get someones attention and make them smile. Perhaps it starts with a playful push, a nickname, or some spicy burns without the malicious intention. This is similar to how kids show affection to each other – except instead of the boy just being mean to you, it’s a sweet back and forth that both of can participate in.
4. Paying attention to the small things
Maybe they noticed a new haircut or nail color on you. Even the tiniest changes are easily noticed, and the same goes for when they switch up something in their usual style. If you have chemistry, you’re probably aware of that person’s nervous habits, what makes them smile, and what their favorite things are. If you didn’t have chemistry, you wouldn’t remember these things, but they simply fascinate you.
5. Time flies
When you’re bored or uninterested with someone, time seems to crawl by slowly, and you can’t wait for it to be done. But when you have chemistry with someone, you completely lose track of time. You feel like there’s not enough time in the day to spend with this person, and all of the long conversations you have (no matter what they’re about) fulfill you deeply. Even when you’re not talking, it’s just as enjoyable.
6. In a room of people, you’re the focus
Whether it’s in a cooking class, a bar, or at a party, there could be hundreds of people around, but you’re the only one they focus on. Hopefully, the feeling is reciprocated by you. When you have chemistry with someone, your attention is always on them. If you’re not with them, you’re usually checking your phone to see fit they’ve messaged, and if they haven’t it makes you forget things or get distracted.
7. You’re always aware of their touch, and finding an excuse to initiate it
If you find yourself feeling a rush of adrenaline when your hands brush together, it might be chemistry. Other signs are touching on the arm or the shoulder – just finding some way to get naturally closer to each other and even touch skin is enough to make you woozy. If the other person doesn’t shy away, there’s definitely a spark.
8. You can’t stop smiling around someone
You can’t control your loud, natural laugh around this person, and smiling is uncontrollable as well. Chemistry is more than finding someone good-looking – it’s how good they make you feel. If you’re constantly beaming around someone and they’re always smiling around you too, there’s probably some mutual chemistry going on.
9. Easy to talk to
While you should want to rip someone’s clothes off, if you have chemistry, they should also be easy to open up to. With a strong magnetic attraction, you’ll feel as though you can tell this person even your darkest secrets and they’ll be in safe hands. You’re not worried about feeling judged or nervous. Instead, it fees like a cathartic therapy session and you can be completely candid with them without being concerned that your trust will be betrayed.