The world of dating can be quite confusing. On one hand, it seems like it would be obvious whether it was a good date or a bad one, but other times you just can’t be sure because of overthinking, awkwardness and just trying to figure out what the other person is thinking or why they were acting a certain way. First dates are especially hard to figure out because a lot of the time you just don’t know the person that well and don’t know how to interpret their behaviour. Some people talk a lot when they’re comfortable and having fun, others enjoy comfortable silence. Some people talk out of nervousness, others stay silent for the same reason. So here are a few signs that can tell you the first day actually went well.
1. You Felt Comfortable
Initial awkwardness is ok on the first date, we all feel that way when we first hang out with someone. But if you eventually, after 15-20 minutes felt comfortable with the person you were on a date with – it’s a good sign. In general, it’s always a good sign if you feel comfortable enough to be yourself and say what you’re thinking without feeling uncomfortable.
2. You Both Talked Roughly The Same
The whole point of going on a date is to get to know each other better and that means you both have to talk for that to happen. So if you feel like both of you took turns telling stories about yourself and you both talked about the same that’s a good sign too. You never want to be the only one talking, just like you don’t want to be a silent participant that has to hear one person go on and on about themselves.
3. You Find The Same Things Funny
There’s nothing worse than being on a date with a person that just doesn’t match your sense of humor. So if you both laugh at the same jokes, find the same things hilarious and generally feel like you’re on the same page when it comes to humor – that’s a great sign.
4. You Didn’t Scroll On Your Phone
This might sound weird, considering that these days we spend most of our time on our phones, but not reaching for your phone for entertainment is a good sign. That means that you were engaged in the conversation and was actually having a good time on a date instead of being bored and scrolling on Instagram to keep busy. Occasional use of a phone to take a photo together or to show a reference of smth doesn’t count, it’s ok, we know it’s nearly impossible to not use a phone at all.
5. They Seemed Content and Happy
It’s definitely a good thing if a person seems happy with their life and has nice things to say about it. Yes, sometimes we can bond by disliking the same thing, but if the person spends the whole date complaining about their life, work or previous relationships – that’s not great.
6. They Seemed Chill Even When Facing Inconveniences
You don’t want to witness a meltdown on the first date, or on any date for that matter. So if the person you were out with seemed calm, collected and positive even when things didn’t go according to plan – that’s a very good sign. You want someone who’ll take things in stride and keep a cool head in stressful situations.
7. The Date Went On Longer Than Expected
We all tend to flee the scene when we feel uncomfortable. So if you haven’t had to resort to calling a friend or faking an emergency and instead felt like time just flew by and suddenly it was way later than you expected – it was a good date.
8. You’ve Made Plans To See Them Again
And we don’t mean saying “we should do this again” and running away. If you actually feel like you want to see them again and you’ve texted each other and made plans for the next date that you’re both excited about you know it’s a good date.