The art of flirting is one that takes some time if you are not a natural-born flirter. Knowing what to say or how to make a good first impression can be hard, especially when trying to flirt with a guy. Whether it be a secret crush or someone you have already made known you are into, you want to ensure that you have the right approach when interacting with him. Even though there is no exact science to flirting, having a few pointers can help you get the ball rolling. Check out these 7 things to avoid when flirting with a guy.
Don’t make fun of him.
Some people think it’s funny to make fun of other people. Furthermore, some even use bullying as a form of flirting, essentially making the other person feel bad about themselves. Kinda weird, huh? This is not a good route to take, as leading with respect and kindness will likely get you a lot farther than “negging” someone.
Don’t brag about other people who are into you.
It may seem like a good idea to use this approach from a reverse psychology perspective. But no one really wants to hear about other people that like you, or that may be into you. It may make them jealous or get you some attention, but it is leading the interaction with playing head games. Not a good start.
Don’t get too touchy-feely too soon.
If you are flirting with a guy, be sure to keep the physical contact on the back burner until later. This is especially true if you are out on the town. Physically flirting can indicate to a guy that you may be ready to get physical immediately. So unless that is your goal, you may want to refrain from that in the first interaction.
Don’t avoid eye contact.
Eyes are the window to the soul, and this is totally relevant when it comes to flirting. Look him directly in the eye when you two are talking. This will show him that you are interested and not afraid to connect with him. You may even just be able to read a bit more about him by making good eye contact.
Don’t drunk text him.
When you are under the influence, a lot of rationale goes out the window. Texting the guy you are into when you are drunk can lead to a lot of regret the next morning. There is no telling the number of ways you may put your foot in your mouth if you go on a texting spree after having a few drinks.
Don’t be fake.
When it comes to flirting, one of the biggest rules is to just be yourself. We all want to be liked and accepted, so there is a natural tendency for some to begin mirroring characteristics or changing who you are based on what you think your crush will like. But you do not want to go into a situation portraying yourself as someone you are not. This will just set you up for failure later, requiring you to keep up the facade as you continue getting to know him. Lead with who you really are, which is 100% perfect and lovable. If they are meant for you, they will like you and appreciate you for all of your unique and beautiful intricacies.
Show him respect and attentiveness.
If you have gotten to the stage of flirting where a conversation develops, be sure to respect his time and listen to him. Being attentive can go a long way, as actually being in the company of a good listener can be rare these days.