You may think you’ve found the perfect guy for you. He checks off all the boxes on your list of what you like in a guy’s personality. But you’ve noticed that he may be a bit immature as far as relationships go, but you aren’t for sure. Determining a person’s emotional maturity in relation to yours is imperative during the initial dating phase. Lack of maturity in a potential partner is a guaranteed pitfall that is better to avoid all together, than endure in a relationship. If you find out early that he’s way to immature for you, you could save yourself a lot of wasted time and hurt feelings down the road. If you think a guy you’re into might not be on your level, check out these 6 signs he’s too immature for a relationship.
He makes no effort to spend time with you.
Does your love interest always expect to see you without making any effort to do so? If he expects you to always be on his time and never goes out of his way to plan a date for you, he’s probably not ready for a real relationship.
His conversation is always only surface level.
A mature guy is not afraid or incapable of exploring ideas in depth. An immature guy is either unwilling or unable to give any level of stimulating dialogue. He’s only interested in surface level interaction with you, so his conversations with you reflect that.
He lacks any real goals or dreams.
A guy with ambition is a guy who knows what he wants and is willing to work for it. If he wants a relationship, he will chase that and achieve it, just like the rest of the things he wants in life. An immature guy will lack direction in life in general, and more specifically, in dating life as well.
He won’t define the relationship.
Immature guys love “situationships” because no title gives free reign or any type of behavior or effort he feels like displaying on a whim. He will not want to define a relationship, because this will hold him to standards and responsibilities to live up to.
He can’t hold down a job for long.
A mature man will have his finances in order and is willing to work hard to maintain his financial security. This is harder for an immature guy, who is flakier and less reliable in many aspects of life. If he can’t hold down job responsibilities, he will likely not be able to hold down the fort of your relationship.
He cannot or will not express his feelings.
Many guys are more of the “strong, silent” type, but it is healthy and critical to express feelings to your partner in a relationship. This may not require many words for a mature guy, but he will be able to articulate his feelings effectively nonetheless. An immature guy will not know what he feels, or just be largely against tapping into his emotional side at all. If he’s super immature, he may even get annoyed or angry when you ask him to express himself.