When it comes to your significant other or spouse, it can be tempting to share your entire world with them. They are your person, so it is natural to want to tell them everything and totally immerse yourself in each other’s lives. While this may sound romantic to some, doing every single thing and sharing it all with your partner can actually be a bad thing. Things start to change once there is no mystery left. As you become so open and close with your partner, this can sometimes trigger the spark to fade – which is one thing many couples wish they could find a way to hold onto. If you want to continue to have some allure in your relationship, you may want to hold onto some things for yourself. This can help you keep that “first date” feeling, that spark or chemistry when you are really on your toes. To keep that feeling alive, check out these things you should not share with your better half.
This may not go without saying for some, while others may not find this as cringe. But sharing toothbrushes is definitely a no. Sharing a toothbrush the first time you had a sleepover may have been cute and endearing, but this is best left as a one-time thing. Using the same toothbrush is only going to spread more germs between the two of you.
Now, this is a touchy subject in relationships and has been known to cause some drag-out brawls. Sharing passwords is not necessarily a bad thing, and can show your partner that they can trust you. But the intention behind asking for the password is what’s important here. If you don’t trust your partner’s actions online or on their phone, you have much bigger problems that need to be addressed.
If you have the kind of relationship where everything is out in the open, then maybe you will enjoy hearing about your partner’s past flings. But this can be a playground for potentially intense emotions of jealousy, hurt, shame, and shock. It may be best to leave the conversation about your old bedroom behavior in the past.
Your opinions about their parents
Talking about the future or current inlaws can be a tricky situation. Dealing with your partner’s parents sometimes proves very cumbersome, especially if they are not the easiest to deal with. But if your opinions of them are not the brightest, you may want to keep that info to yourself. No one wants to hear their person rag on their mom or dad.
Holiday photos with your ex
This should go without saying, but your current partner is probably not interested in seeing how much fun you had on that skiing trip with your cute ex from eight years ago. If you are in a happy, long-term relationship, this should not even really be a possibility. Because if this is the case, why do you even have access to any photos of you and your ex? That’s something to ponder.
Jealousy or insecurities
When it comes to emotions like jealousy, this depends on the relationship you have with your partner. Sharing negative emotions is not a bad thing, but you don’t want to make your insecurities and jealousy the responsibility of your partner. Unless your partner is behaving in a manner that justifies feeling jealous, you may be experiencing these emotions solely from a personal space. Be sure to do the internal work to address your feelings of jealousy, instead of just telling your partner.
No matter how close you get in a relationship, some things should just stay a mystery – and that includes bodily functions that take place in the bathroom. You’ll never get that spark back if you are sharing physical space while your partner is using the toilet.