It’s traditional (but also very stereotypical) for men to take the initiative and make the first move in a relationship, from asking someone out for the first time to getting down on one knee and popping the big question. However, we’re living in modern times, and it’s perfectly fine for women to take matters into their own hands. Based on research from dating services, it’s about time for women to step up and start taking control.
1. Women don’t need to wait for eligible dudes to appear
Prince Charming isn’t going to manifest himself out of thin air. Guys often send more messages than women on dating sites, and this technique is known as “fishing.” The more messages you send, the better chances are of “catching” something out in the sea!
However, we all know that quality is better than quantity, and women spend a lot of time waiting around for someone worthy to reach out to them. Instead, ladies should stop waiting for that first message and be courageous enough to hit send and initiate the conversation.
2. Guys love when women approach them first
The more messages that guys receive on dating apps, the more they send back in return. For this reason, women are more likely to get a response from a guy if they take a leap and make that first move. This also means that all the power is in the woman’s hands. They can choose how to start the conversation rather than dealing with eye-roll-worthy pickup lines.
3. Women are likely to land a better man when they take initiative
Based on OkCupid stats, folks generally reach out to someone they perceive as more attractive than them. Guys have no problem shooting for someone out of their league, so why can’t women take the initiative and ensure they only talk to hunks? Appearance isn’t the only perk – by choosing first, women can ensure they have an overall more appealing mate.
4. Ladies are more likely to find love when they make the first move
Acting first can change your whole life. When women reach out, the probability of finding their soulmate will increase dramatically. Whoever is the go-getter ends up reaping the benefits, and this is true for many things in life, including love. Based on a survey from The League, the stats really can be in a woman’s favor.
5. It’s better than waiting around
How many women do you know who have complained about waiting around for a man to reach out after a first date or waiting on a match to message first? A lot of women are against the concept of reaching out, but it doesn’t make you look desperate – it’s actually sexy and assertive to say something!
6. It’s practice for social skills
Whether you get rejected or the guy ends up being into you, taking the initiative and reaching out to someone first is a great way to build your confidence. Think of it as practicing social skills that can be applicable in different areas of life rather than worrying about putting all your eggs in one basket.
7. It’ll help you weed out the bad ones
Women being proactive is a good thing, and if a guy isn’t down with that, it might mean he doesn’t deserve your attention in the first place. If he has an issue with a woman being an initiator, it may be a sign of control issues or game-playing, and a partner that celebrates your courage and clarity is one that you want to invest more time in.
