If you haven’t yet met the love of your life, it can feel frustrating. You might consider yourself unlucky, but you should also remember that you could meet your soulmate tomorrow. Although being single can feel like an endless wait, you should also realize that soulmates don’t always come in the form of lovers. Either way, these are some things you should remember in the meantime.
1. Love comes when you least expect it
Although that old phrase “a watched pot never boils” is a cliche, it’s true when it comes to finding your soulmate. Often, when you’re feeling low and lonely that’s not what you’re looking to hear, but ultimately love can surprise you.
2. Your relationship with yourself is the most important
In order to find that person, you need to find yourself. You should always include self-care in your regular routine, whatever that means to you. Self-love is also essential — consider saying positive affirmations to yourself in the mirror or making a list of your favorite qualities about yourself.
3. There’s someone for everybody
Even if you’re feeling like the odd woman out, your soulmate does exist and will find their way to you when it matters most. It might be a stranger or someone close that you’d never expect, but you just need to be patient with what the universe has in store for you.
4. Being single isn’t the worst
Although it can feel like that at times, you should accept that you’ll inevitably end up in love at some point in your life, so you should enjoy the independence and freedom you have as a single person while it lasts.
5. Soulmates aren’t always romantic
Sure, your soulmate can be someone you have romantic love for. But your soulmate can also be a BFF, family member, or mentor in your life. If you’re lucky, you’ll have multiple soulmates in your life, and many of them could be platonic.
6. Don’t force every first date
If you don’t vibe, you don’t vibe. Dating should be fun, and you shouldn’t feel pressured to lock someone down after meeting them once or twice. Even if you desperately want a partner, go with what feels right.
7. The past can help your future
Knowing what you want is necessary if you want a successful relationship with someone one day. Take a look back at your previous relationships, dates, or people you’ve had crushes on. This way, you can figure out healthy or unhealthy patterns, as well as types and preferences.
8. Don’t go back to old exes
Of course, there are some exceptions to this rule, but for the most part, your ex is your ex for a reason. Idealizing past relationships where you were mistreated or didn’t feel a spark will only make you settle for someone lesser. And based on history, it might not work out again.
9. Use your time wisely
When you’re single, you have time and space to do things that you might not get around to in a relationship. Do you want to travel the world by yourself? How about taking a cooking class or tackling a creative goal.
10. Being single doesn’t mean you’re unlovable
When you see everyone coupled up it can make you feel like a castaway in society. But we’ve all felt like that at some point, and it’s simply not true. We are all worthy and deserve to both give and receive all the love in the world.
11. Start working on things you want to explore
We all need to take inventory and reorganize our lives at some point. For some people, that means going back to school. For others, it means righting past wrongs or finishing something that you’ve left unfinished.
12. Think about why past relationships failed
This can help you figure out whether you’ve had an attraction to toxic people or if you are in fact the one exhibiting toxic behavior in your relationships. Either way, it can help you be a better person and asses repeating patterns, which is important for a healthy relationship.
13. Your support system is just s important as a soulmate
You know those people keeping your spirits high while you’re between romantic partners? That’s your support network, and they’re way more important. They’ll always be by your side, no matter how unlovable you feel during your low times.
14. Fulfilling yourself is the first step
You’ll never feel fulfilled by someone else if you’re not listening to your own needs. If there’s something you want but you’ve been pushing away, finding a partner won’t make it better. It’ll just be a distraction, and it’s a distraction that’s ultimately not satisfying.
15. Remember how amazing you are
Whether you’re friends with benefits, in a couple, married, or single, you’re amazing, beautiful, and 100% unique. Your romantic status does not equal your worth. One day, your Prince or Princess Charming will come your way, but even if they don’t, your love for yourself will be sufficient.